Every woman is a daughter of daughters.
This includes every mother—whether biological or adoptive, pregnant or 50 years postpartum.
The mother-daughter relationship is an incredibly complex bond. It forms the foundation for our health and wellbeing as women, and our most deeply ingrained beliefs about ourselves originate here.
Our bodies are created by a seamless web of nature and nurture, of biology informed by consciousness that we can trace through time.
Did you know you existed inside your mother while she was still inside your grandmother? Take a second to let that sink in. Girls are born with their lifetime supply of eggs, which develop inside the female fetus at around 20-weeks gestation. So the egg that became you, was present inside your mother’s fetus when she was inside your grandmother’s womb. This is our epigenetic inheritance: every daughter contains her mother and all the women who came before her. The matrilineal line is like a Matryoshka doll, layered one inside the next.
An Open Letter to The Daughters of Daughters
“Every woman who heals herself, helps heal all women who came before her, and all those who come after her.” -Dr. Christiane Northrup
“Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow.”
"If you look deeply into the palm of your hand, you will see your parents and all generations of your ancestors. All of them are alive in this moment. Each is present in your body. You are the continuation of each of these people."
—Thich Nhat Hanh
As infants we are formed in the soil of our mother’s emotions, beliefs, and
behaviors and even before birth, our mother provides us with our first experience
of nurturing. Each of us absorbs at a cellular level how our mother feels
about being female, what she believes about her body, how she takes care of herself,
and what she believes is possible in life.
Just as we are shaped by our mother’s beliefs about the world, the unrealized dreams of our maternal ancestors are also part of our heritage. Regardless of specifics, I know this to be true: each of us must get clear about the ways in which our mother’s history both influenced and continues to inform our state of health, our beliefs, and how we live our lives. Especially if we plan to (or do) have children of our own.
Note: Your own mother does not need to be available (or even still living) for you to benefit from this work. The Mother Wound is something we hold deep in our psyches. This work is for individual women looking to heal The Mother Wound, and also for mother/daughter duos looking to understand the complexities of their relationship, and connect/flourish in a new way.
Mother/Daughter Work with Kim Fraser-Harrison involves the following:
Identifying ancestral patterns
Uncovering the intergenerational trauma we inherited
Understanding and healing the Mother Wound
Re-parenting the Inner Child
Healing our relationship to the Mother in the Psyche (our own Internal Nurturer)
Facing and integrating the shadow aspects of femininity
Learning and applying the principles of Conscious Parenting
Repairing the sacred relationship between Mother and Daughter
Somatic awareness of the core, from diastasis to solar plexus
Eco-feminism and exploration of our relationship to Mother Earth
Healing the wounded feminine
This includes addressing manifestations of perfectionism and unworthiness (the belief that one must earn love), people-pleasing, a focus on the external/ appearance, approval-seeking, caretaking, conflict avoidance, a pained relationship with Body, Food, Sensuality/ Sexuality